What is the connection between enabling parents and failure to launch syndrome?
As told by client Jonathan, now 48 and still struggling with Failure to Launch Syndrome.
Enabling parents are one of the biggest reasons that young adults stay stuck in failure to launch syndrome instead of stepping up into productive and responsible young adulthood. The best way for me to explain this is for me to tell you my story. Let me first tell you that both my parents are some of the most loving and caring people on this planet. They love me and my two brothers enormously.
Unfortunately, they love us to a fault. Growing up as a child I was given everything I could possibly want. Whatever the newest toy that came out I got. I had the best clothes. I had a motorcycle at the age of nine. When I turned sixteen I had a brand new Nissan 280z waiting for me. Now, there is nothing wrong with having the finer things in life if you can afford them, but I never had to work for any of these things. They were just given to me. I remember other kids had chores to pay for their car insurance. Not me, my parents paid mine. I had friends that had two jobs in high school to make their car payment. Not me, my parents paid mine. We even got an allowance for doing nothing. I remember that I was supposed to mow the yard once a week but I would always find a way out of it and my Dad would mow the yard.
Now, I wasn’t a bad kid by any means. I was very kind and nice to everyone and my parents were great loving parents. But as life has progressed I realized that they enabled me to the point that I couldn’t do anything for myself because I never had to. There were no consequences for my parents’ helicopter parenting me. Money and things simply were always there and I just really didn’t have to do anything.
I developed zero respect for money or material things. I remember wrecking my 280z less than two years after I was given the car and it was replaced by a new Turbo Thunderbird. Once again my parents gave me this car. I am now 48 years old and I still struggle with failure to launch at times. I have to take responsibility for where I am and my struggles but my parents enabling definitely contributed to my failure to launch syndrome. I needed to work for my material assets in my childhood to develop an appreciation and respect for them. I needed to dig myself out of the bad decisions I made as a young adult instead of having my parents bail me out time and time again.
So the answer is definitely YES to the question of whether enabling and failure to launch are connected at the hip. So we here at The Addictions Coach http://www.theaddictionscoach.com
1-800-706-0318 specialize in treating Failure to Launch syndrome and are here 24/7 to answer your calls on this topic. So call us today to get information on failure to launch and enroll in our program now.