Does being a tough parent fix failure to launch syndrome?
The initial answer to this question would definitely be yes; however, we need to really dive into the word “tough” and make sure we are talking about the right kind of “tough”. The correct kind of “tough” parent that would help fix failure to launch syndrome would be a parent that has the ability to show “tough” love without enabling. The kind of “tough” parent that helps fix failure to launch is the kind that guides their child through life WITHOUT making all the child’s decisions for them. A child needs to build confidence and can only do this by making good productive decisions for themselves over and over. A “tough” parent that would positively influence failure to launch would be the type of parent that sets consequences for bad choices and bad behavior and follows through with structural punishment. The kind of “tough” parent that would help fix failure to launch would be the type that allows their child to work for material things and not just give them to the child (think about the 5-year-old meltdown in Target over candy, did you give in?). Being a parent is generally TOUGH. And, as a parent, we must keep in mind that everything we do has an impact on our children’s mental and psychological makeup. So being a “tough” parent, if done correctly, can definitely help fix failure to launch syndrome.
Now on the other side of the coin, being a “tough” parent, if done incorrectly, can actually make things worse. Some parents think being a “tough” parent means a bunch of screaming and yelling and being verbally abusive. This actually does the opposite for a young adult’s confidence level. Verbal abuse towards someone suffering from failure to launch can send the person deeper into isolation, depression, drug and alcohol abuse, self-esteem and peer group turmoil and this can even make their failure to launch syndrome worse. Remember, as a parent, “tough” means that we don’t bend on responsibility and accountability no matter what. It’s called “tough” love. We give our kids the freedom to fail but always steer them in the right direction!
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