What are the TOP signs my child is suffering from Failure to Launch?
Failure to Launch is an epidemic that is overtaking our young adults. When we say that our youth is the future of this country we really need to take that seriously and help our struggling young adults before they head down a path of self-destruction with addiction because of the side effects of Failure to Launch. What are the signs of Failure to Launch syndrome? First of all, do you have a teenage son or a daughter who just seems completely unmotivated? Does he or she act like they just don’t care about anything? If so, your child may be suffering from Failure to Launch syndrome.
What are some techniques for fixing failure to launch?
There are quite a few techniques for fixing failure to launch, starting with low confidence levels and self-esteem in the person. Failure to launch is when young adults get “stuck” in between childhood and productive and responsible young adulthood. And again, there are many reasons for this crippling syndrome but we can start helping someone suffering from failure to launch by first helping increase their confidence. We can improve a young adults confidence level by giving them tasks that they can complete and then letting them know that they did a good job. Maybe at first, it is a task or two that may be considered easily completed, however, we would still positively encourage the young adult and help them stack a few good days on top of each other while building their confidence. Remember, confidence is built by doing something successfully over and over.
What is the connection between enabling parents and failure to launch syndrome?
As told by client Jonathan, now 48 and still struggling with Failure to Launch Syndrome.
Does being a tough parent fix failure to launch syndrome?
What are the signs that your child might be suffering from failure to launch syndrome?
Can failure to launch be reversed?
A Failure to Launch Syndrome Success Story speaks out: Meet Josh, 28 from LA that went through our program.
Failure to launch is when a young adult cant progress from late childhood into responsible and productive young adults. It is exactly what it sounds like it is. It is when a young adult cant “launch” himself or herself into a productive and responsible lifestyle. So can this syndrome be reversed and fixed? YES, IT CAN!
We both treat and teach people how to correct the failure to launch syndrome. Failure to launch is caused by a number of factors from both the person suffering from failure to launch and the people surrounding those suffering from failure to launch. We start with the upbringing of the young adult. Children who have everything done for them without thinking for themselves are prime candidates for failure to launch. Children need to be directed in the right paths in life but need the space to think for themselves. This gives young adults a chance to grow self-esteem and confidence.
I was a child who had EVERYTHING done for me. If I messed up my parents were right there to clean it up. I never had to dig myself out of my own messes. Once I became a young adult I didn’t know how to get myself out of certain negative situations. This had a very negative influence on my life. Dr. Cali Estes and her team will focus on young adults being responsible and accountable for their decisions and actions and we work on helping them grow confidence. Also as a child, I personally have had EVERYTHING bought for me and supplied for me. I’m not talking about food, clothing and everyday items for survival that parents should supply. I’m talking about extras. If I crashed my car another one was bought for me. If I wanted a trip the tickets were bought for me. I had to work for nothing! So when I became a young adult I had zero respect for money and hard work.
We show our clients how to work hard and save hard. We show them how to value the money that they make for themselves which in turn teaches them to greatly value hard work. We need to really take Failure to Launch very seriously and work case by case to extinguish this syndrome all together! Call us today to enroll in our Failure to Launch classes or to get help working on your Failure to Launch issues.
What is it like to have a Failure To Launch child?
Father Tim tells us about his son Jefferson:
First, let’s explain what Failure To Launch is exactly. Failure to Launch Syndrome is very much what it sounds like. Failure to launch is where a young adult is stuck in “no man’s land” between the time period of childhood and the time period of responsible young adulthood. Failure to launch young adults have become more and more common in our nation’s population. Failure to launch young adults claim that they “don’t know what they want to do”. Failure to launch young adults claim that “there are no jobs out there” meanwhile the economy is as strong as it has been in a while. Failure to launch young adults blame everything and everyone under the sun for their own personal lack of productivity.
So what is it like as a parent to have a failure to launch child? FRUSTRATING is the first word that comes to my mind as a parent of a child who is engulfed in failure to launch syndrome. My child has an incredibly high IQ. He got excellent grades. My child was also in all advanced classes in middle school and high school. But even though he excelled in all of these areas he suffers from the failure to launch syndrome.
As a father, it is extremely frustrating for me as his caregiver to watch this “floundering”. As a caring parent, I want to see him succeed. I want to see him achieve everything in life that he could possibly want or need. I know this failure to launch syndrome bothers my child. I know his failure to launch syndrome affects his confidence and this really hurts. Since the birth of my son, I have been “catching” him when he took his first steps but failed. I would be there to catch him if he tripped. I was there to hold him and tell him that “it’s ok” when he hurt himself. But this is completely different.
We are both adults now. He lives on the other side of the country and we see each other seldom, maybe a few times a year. We both have adult lives to manage but he is still the same baby boy taking his first “baby steps” and I feel like I’m sitting there, arms outstretched, waiting to catch him. Maybe as a parent, I shouldn’t have always been so eager to “catch” him. Maybe that is why he can’t “catch” himself. Have I been there too many times to “clean up” the messes that life has brought my son? As I think back over my childhood I can clearly see that my self helping process was hindered by my dad bailing me out time and time again instead of allowing me to dig myself out of my “holes”. I love my dad enormously and he meant no harm, but there is a fine line between love and enabling.
Here at The Addictions Coach http://www.theaddictionscoach.com 1-800-706-0318 and The Addictions Academy http://www.theaddictionsacademy.com we treat and teach ways to overcome Failure to Launch. Call us today for information!
How do I know if my child has a failure to launch syndrome?
There are some telltale signs of failure to launch syndrome these include:
- Still living at home (or parents paying rent, bills)
- Difficulty finding employment (or keeping it)
- Difficulty completing and finishing tasks
- Lack of Motivation
- Drug and alcohol use
- Excessive gaming
- Addiction to social media/selfies that impacts daily life
- Inability to cook meals and complete laundry/cleaning tasks
- Meltdowns if stressed
- Withdrawing from family or zoning out at family events
- Diagnosis with anxiety, depression or ADHD
These are a few of the signs that can be synonymous with failure to launch. This is not an exhaustive list and not all symptoms on the list mean the client is experiencing failure to launch syndrome. We suggest you book an evaluation with our clinical team to discover if you need assistance with our failure to launch program.
How do you fix Failure to Launch Syndrome?
Fixing failure to launch syndrome has a lot to do with the root cause of a problem behavior that is underlying why the person feels stuck. Understanding the root cause which can be a lack of motivation, lack of job skill, or helicopter or lawnmower parenting that has put an individual into a specific pattern. Uncovering and removing those stuck points is the key to fixing failure to launch syndrome in the young to mid-adult. A big part of handling these issues is involving the parents as part of the structured team.
Let Dr. Cali Estes and her team of certified and trained coaches and staff create the right scenario and environment for the young to flourish. We specialize in helping the failure to launch client go from stuck to success in a positive forward direction. It is also understanding that the goals that a parent may have when a child has the failure to launch syndrome may not be the same goals that the child has or they may be goals the child cannot implement which is causing the failure to launch syndrome. The person that is stuck may also be using drugs and alcohol to escape and mask the problems that they do not want to deal with. Dr. Cali Estes and her team will uncover the stuck points identify the stress issues and work on lessening the barriers to achieve success. We prefer to involve the family as a unit and create a positive forward motion in the young adult as a team.