What are the TOP signs my child is suffering from Failure to Launch?

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What are the TOP signs my child is suffering from Failure to Launch?

Failure to Launch is an epidemic that is overtaking our young adults. When we say that our youth is the future of this country we really need to take that seriously and help our struggling young adults before they head down a path of self-destruction with addiction because of the side effects of Failure to Launch. What are the signs of Failure to Launch syndrome? First of all, do you have a teenage son or a daughter who just seems completely unmotivated? Does he or she act like they just don’t care about anything? If so, your child may be suffering from Failure to Launch syndrome.

Next, is your young adult child still living at home with no attempt to create a home for themselves? A lack of motivation to create a home for himself or herself is a huge sign that your child may be stuck in the midst of Failure To Launch syndrome.  How about this, is your teenage son locking himself in his room and playing video games instead of going to school or job hunting? This also shows a lack of motivation and is a huge sign of Failure to Launch.  Is your teenage son or daughter isolating themselves from everyone? I will tell you this, isolation is one of the biggest signs of Failure to Launch and is one of the most obvious signs that something needs to change with your child. These are just a few of the signs that your teenage son or daughter may be suffering from failure to launch syndrome.
Failure to launch syndrome is exactly what it sounds like. This is when your son or daughter is stuck in between childhood and being a productive and motivated member of society. They are, in a sense, failing to launch themselves into adulthood and a productive career path that will sustain them in life for the rest of their working adulthood and beyond into retirement. There are quite a few reasons for young adults having symptoms of failure to launch. Let’s examine a few of them. Some parents have done, or are doing, everything for their children without giving the child the skills and tools to make decisions for themselves and dig themselves out of their own problems in life. Parents are constantly coming to the rescue and solving their children’s issues for them leaving the child helpless when the parents aren’t around anymore. This is a huge contributing factor to failure to launch syndrome.
Also, low self-esteem is a huge contributing factor to failure to launch syndrome. If the young adult doesn’t have the Confidence to make proper decisions in life then they won’t make any decisions at all most of the time and just sit back and let life dictate their outcome instead of them dictating life’s outcome. This is why family structure and proper parenting is so vital in a child’s upbringing. Proper structure and guidance go a long way in keeping your child from suffering from Failure to Launch syndrome. The Addictions Coach has developed Launch Pad and Launch Pad Express to help young adults caught up in Failure to Launch. Please call us at 1-800-706-0318 to get all the information you need about our Failure To Launch programs! We are FixFailure2Launch.com

What are some techniques for fixing failure to launch?

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What are some techniques for fixing failure to launch?

There are quite a few techniques for fixing failure to launch, starting with low confidence levels and self-esteem in the person. Failure to launch is when young adults get “stuck” in between childhood and productive and responsible young adulthood. And again, there are many reasons for this crippling syndrome but we can start helping someone suffering from failure to launch by first helping increase their confidence. We can improve a young adults confidence level by giving them tasks that they can complete and then letting them know that they did a good job. Maybe at first, it is a task or two that may be considered easily completed, however,  we would still positively encourage the young adult and help them stack a few good days on top of each other while building their confidence. Remember, confidence is built by doing something successfully over and over.

Next, we can “steer” the young adult suffering from failure to launch syndrome in the right direction but all the while giving them the space to make their own decisions and giving them the responsibility to be productive in life. That brings us to accountability. By building a young adult’s confidence level by giving them responsibility on a daily basis will also make them accountable. Once a young adult suffering from failure to launch syndrome becomes responsible and confident he or she will soon become accountable to themselves and others to always do the right thing.
Last, but not least, we must not enable our children or young adults suffering from failure to launch. One of the hardest things to do as a parent is to not enable our children. We want to always be there to help them when they “fall’. But when doing this obsessively we actually cripple our kids and send them further into the cycle of failure to launch. We need to learn to say no and offer structure and not create more issues within the child’s inability to flourish.
Dr. Cali Estes and her team can help.  1-800-706-0318 specialize in treating young adults suffering from failure to launch syndrome by helping build trust, confidence, accountability and by helping the client get clean and sober and stay clean and sober. Call us today at the number listed above to enroll in our Failure to Launch program.

What is the connection between enabling parents and failure to launch syndrome?

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What is the connection between enabling parents and failure to launch syndrome?

As told by client Jonathan, now 48 and still struggling with Failure to Launch Syndrome.

Enabling parents are one of the biggest reasons that young adults stay stuck in failure to launch syndrome instead of stepping up into productive and responsible young adulthood. The best way for me to explain this is for me to tell you my story. Let me first tell you that both my parents are some of the most loving and caring people on this planet. They love me and my two brothers enormously.
Unfortunately, they love us to a fault. Growing up as a child I was given everything I could possibly want. Whatever the newest toy that came out I got. I had the best clothes. I had a motorcycle at the age of nine. When I turned sixteen I had a brand new Nissan 280z waiting for me. Now, there is nothing wrong with having the finer things in life if you can afford them, but I never had to work for any of these things. They were just given to me. I remember other kids had chores to pay for their car insurance. Not me, my parents paid mine. I had friends that had two jobs in high school to make their car payment. Not me, my parents paid mine. We even got an allowance for doing nothing. I remember that I was supposed to mow the yard once a week but I would always find a way out of it and my Dad would mow the yard.
Now, I wasn’t a bad kid by any means. I was very kind and nice to everyone and my parents were great loving parents. But as life has progressed I realized that they enabled me to the point that I couldn’t do anything for myself because I never had to. There were no consequences for my parents’ helicopter parenting me. Money and things simply were always there and I just really didn’t have to do anything.
I developed zero respect for money or material things. I remember wrecking my 280z less than two years after I was given the car and it was replaced by a new Turbo Thunderbird. Once again my parents gave me this car. I am now 48 years old and I still struggle with failure to launch at times. I have to take responsibility for where I am and my struggles but my parents enabling definitely contributed to my failure to launch syndrome. I needed to work for my material assets in my childhood to develop an appreciation and respect for them. I needed to dig myself out of the bad decisions I made as a young adult instead of having my parents bail me out time and time again.
So the answer is definitely YES to the question of whether enabling and failure to launch are connected at the hip. So we here at The Addictions Coach http://www.theaddictionscoach.com 1-800-706-0318 specialize in treating Failure to Launch syndrome and are here 24/7 to answer your calls on this topic. So call us today to get information on failure to launch and enroll in our program now.

Does being a tough parent fix failure to launch syndrome?

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Does being a tough parent fix failure to launch syndrome?

The initial answer to this question would definitely be yes; however, we need to really dive into the word “tough” and make sure we are talking about the right kind of “tough”. The correct kind of “tough” parent that would help fix failure to launch syndrome would be a parent that has the ability to show “tough” love without enabling. The kind of “tough” parent that helps fix failure to launch is the kind that guides their child through life WITHOUT making all the child’s decisions for them. A child needs to build confidence and can only do this by making good productive decisions for themselves over and over. A “tough” parent that would positively influence failure to launch would be the type of parent that sets consequences for bad choices and bad behavior and follows through with structural punishment. The kind of “tough” parent that would help fix failure to launch would be the type that allows their child to work for material things and not just give them to the child (think about the 5-year-old meltdown in Target over candy, did you give in?). Being a parent is generally TOUGH. And, as a parent, we must keep in mind that everything we do has an impact on our children’s mental and psychological makeup. So being a “tough” parent, if done correctly, can definitely help fix failure to launch syndrome.
Now on the other side of the coin, being a “tough” parent, if done incorrectly, can actually make things worse. Some parents think being a “tough” parent means a bunch of screaming and yelling and being verbally abusive. This actually does the opposite for a young adult’s confidence level. Verbal abuse towards someone suffering from failure to launch can send the person deeper into isolation, depression, drug and alcohol abuse, self-esteem and peer group turmoil and this can even make their failure to launch syndrome worse. Remember, as a parent, “tough” means that we don’t bend on responsibility and accountability no matter what. It’s called “tough” love. We give our kids the freedom to fail but always steer them in the right direction!
We here at The Addictions Coach http://www.theaddictionscoach.com 1-800-706-0318 specialize in fixing failure to launch syndrome. We specialize in building confidence and accountability in young adults suffering from failure to launch. So please call us today at the number listed above to get enrolled in our Failure To Launch program. Also, click on our website link above to watch our hundreds of testimonial videos of those who have used The Addictions Coach to change their lives for the better!!

What are the signs that your child might be suffering from failure to launch syndrome?

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What are the signs that your child might be suffering from failure to launch syndrome?

Dad, Max speaks out about his son Nate that has Failure to Launch Syndrome.
There are quite a few different signs that your child might be stagnating and suffering from failure to launch. I am going to discuss my son Nate who suffers from the failure to launch syndrome. Things seemed to be going great for Nate. He was a high school senior, good grades, lots of friends and a good home life. One day, without any warning, Nate asked to move to Colorado. Now, being 18 years old, his step-mother and I let him know that we thought this was a bad idea but couldn’t do much to stop him. Little did we know that isolation is one of the first signs of a  failure to launch child. Nate wanted to move as far away from his parents as he could, and Colorado is about as far from Maine as you can get! While we didn’t approve, we didn’t stop him. His step-mother and I thought maybe he would just grow wings and fly and not fail. At least that is what the therapist told us to do. Parent from afar, she said.
After about two weeks, we began having trouble getting Nate on the phone. When your child is on the other side of the country you want to at least establish phone contact with him or her and in my case, this just wasn’t happening. Time and time again, the phone would just ring and ring with no answer from my son. Whenever I would finally reach him and discuss this with him he would say that he didn’t want to have to explain to us as to why he didn’t know what he wanted to do in life, so he didn’t want to answer the phone. Before I understood failure to launch and its symptoms I couldn’t understand why he felt this way. I would ask myself what I did wrong for him to feel this way and mull over how I failed as a parent. I never assumed it was him and his failure to launch syndrome, not me.
So, after my son moved away and isolated himself, the next symptom we noticed after paying his bills for six months was lack of steady income and work. He texted (not called) that was having trouble finding work and keeping work unless it was someone we knew that supplied the work for him. I would talk to my son’s bosses when he would go into complete darkness and ignore us and they would tell me the same thing, that he would be very cyclic with his job. He would work great for six weeks then disappear. Everyone would be completely frustrated because when working, Nate was an excellent employee. Was he bipolar? Was he schizophrenic? He tested negative for both. The therapist said he simply had ‘anxiety’ and offered Xanax, which he did not take because he said it made him ‘tired’.
To make it worse, after isolating himself and not keeping a job, Nate began having trouble getting out of bed. When I would go visit him he went to bed at 7 pm and would crawl out of bed around noon. These unusual sleep patterns show a sign of depression and possible anxiety. Failure to launch syndrome seems to encompass both. Again, when I would press my son to explain these odd behaviors, he would always go back to “not wanting to let us down” and “not knowing what he wants to do”. As I think back on how my son got to this point and can’t help but blame myself and his upbringing. Nate’s mother and I split up when he was a year old. On his mother’s side there was zero structure and on my side, there was over an overbearing upbringing to the point of almost complete enabling. It hurts to say that with an upbringing like that the kid didn’t stand a chance.
So now what? Well, we here at The Addictions Coach http://www.theaddictionscoach.com 1-800-706-0318 specialize in reversing failure to launch syndrome. Call us today to get information on Failure to Launch to and help someone suffering from this disabling syndrome.

Can failure to launch be reversed?

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Can failure to launch be reversed?

A Failure to Launch Syndrome Success Story speaks out: Meet Josh, 28 from LA that went through our program.

Failure to launch is when a young adult cant progress from late childhood into responsible and productive young adults. It is exactly what it sounds like it is. It is when a young adult cant “launch” himself or herself into a productive and responsible lifestyle. So can this syndrome be reversed and fixed? YES, IT CAN!

We both treat and teach people how to correct the failure to launch syndrome. Failure to launch is caused by a number of factors from both the person suffering from failure to launch and the people surrounding those suffering from failure to launch. We start with the upbringing of the young adult. Children who have everything done for them without thinking for themselves are prime candidates for failure to launch. Children need to be directed in the right paths in life but need the space to think for themselves. This gives young adults a chance to grow self-esteem and confidence.

I was a child who had EVERYTHING done for me. If I messed up my parents were right there to clean it up. I never had to dig myself out of my own messes. Once I became a young adult I didn’t know how to get myself out of certain negative situations. This had a very negative influence on my life. Dr. Cali Estes and her team will focus on young adults being responsible and accountable for their decisions and actions and we work on helping them grow confidence. Also as a child, I personally have had EVERYTHING bought for me and supplied for me. I’m not talking about food, clothing and everyday items for survival that parents should supply. I’m talking about extras. If I crashed my car another one was bought for me. If I wanted a trip the tickets were bought for me. I had to work for nothing! So when I became a young adult I had zero respect for money and hard work.

We show our clients how to work hard and save hard. We show them how to value the money that they make for themselves which in turn teaches them to greatly value hard work. We need to really take Failure to Launch very seriously and work case by case to extinguish this syndrome all together! Call us today to enroll in our Failure to Launch classes or to get help working on your Failure to Launch issues.

What is it like to have a Failure To Launch child?

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What is it like to have a Failure To Launch child?

Father Tim tells us about his son Jefferson:

First, let’s explain what Failure To Launch is exactly. Failure to Launch Syndrome is very much what it sounds like. Failure to launch is where a young adult is stuck in “no man’s land” between the time period of childhood and the time period of responsible young adulthood. Failure to launch young adults have become more and more common in our nation’s population. Failure to launch young adults claim that they “don’t know what they want to do”. Failure to launch young adults claim that “there are no jobs out there” meanwhile the economy is as strong as it has been in a while. Failure to launch young adults blame everything and everyone under the sun for their own personal lack of productivity.

So what is it like as a parent to have a failure to launch child? FRUSTRATING is the first word that comes to my mind as a parent of a child who is engulfed in failure to launch syndrome. My child has an incredibly high IQ. He got excellent grades. My child was also in all advanced classes in middle school and high school. But even though he excelled in all of these areas he suffers from the failure to launch syndrome.

As a father, it is extremely frustrating for me as his caregiver to watch this “floundering”. As a caring parent, I want to see him succeed. I want to see him achieve everything in life that he could possibly want or need. I know this failure to launch syndrome bothers my child. I know his failure to launch syndrome affects his confidence and this really hurts. Since the birth of my son, I have been “catching”  him when he took his first steps but failed. I would be there to catch him if he tripped. I was there to hold him and tell him that “it’s ok” when he hurt himself. But this is completely different.

We are both adults now. He lives on the other side of the country and we see each other seldom, maybe a few times a year. We both have adult lives to manage but he is still the same baby boy taking his first “baby steps” and I feel like I’m sitting there, arms outstretched, waiting to catch him. Maybe as a parent, I shouldn’t have always been so eager to “catch” him. Maybe that is why he can’t “catch” himself. Have I been there too many times to “clean up” the messes that life has brought my son? As I think back over my childhood I can clearly see that my self helping process was hindered by my dad bailing me out time and time again instead of allowing me to dig myself out of my “holes”. I love my dad enormously and he meant no harm, but there is a fine line between love and enabling.

Here at The Addictions Coach http://www.theaddictionscoach.com 1-800-706-0318 and The Addictions Academy http://www.theaddictionsacademy.com we treat and teach ways to overcome Failure to Launch. Call us today for information!

How do I know if my child has a failure to launch syndrome?

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How do I know if my child has a failure to launch syndrome?

There are some telltale signs of failure to launch syndrome these include:

  • Still living at home (or parents paying rent, bills)
  • Difficulty finding employment (or keeping it)
  • Difficulty completing and finishing tasks
  • Lack of Motivation
  • Drug and alcohol use
  • Excessive gaming
  • Addiction to social media/selfies that impacts daily life
  • Inability to cook meals and complete laundry/cleaning tasks
  • Meltdowns if stressed
  • Withdrawing from family or zoning out at family events
  • Diagnosis with anxiety, depression or ADHD

These are a few of the signs that can be synonymous with failure to launch. This is not an exhaustive list and not all symptoms on the list mean the client is experiencing failure to launch syndrome. We suggest you book an evaluation with our clinical team to discover if you need assistance with our failure to launch program.

How do you fix Failure to Launch Syndrome?

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How do you fix Failure to Launch Syndrome?

Fixing failure to launch syndrome has a lot to do with the root cause of a problem behavior that is underlying why the person feels stuck. Understanding the root cause which can be a lack of motivation, lack of job skill, or helicopter or lawnmower parenting that has put an individual into a specific pattern. Uncovering and removing those stuck points is the key to fixing failure to launch syndrome in the young to mid-adult. A big part of handling these issues is involving the parents as part of the structured team.

Let Dr. Cali Estes and her team of certified and trained coaches and staff create the right scenario and environment for the young to flourish. We specialize in helping the failure to launch client go from stuck to success in a positive forward direction. It is also understanding that the goals that a parent may have when a child has the failure to launch syndrome may not be the same goals that the child has or they may be goals the child cannot implement which is causing the failure to launch syndrome. The person that is stuck may also be using drugs and alcohol to escape and mask the problems that they do not want to deal with. Dr. Cali Estes and her team will uncover the stuck points identify the stress issues and work on lessening the barriers to achieve success. We prefer to involve the family as a unit and create a positive forward motion in the young adult as a team.

What is Failure to Launch Syndrome?

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What is Failure to Launch Syndrome?

Failure to launch syndrome is a term that is given to young to middle-age adults that can’t seem to do certain things in life. This group of individuals seems to lack motivation, life skills, job skills, and almost would rather stay at home than be successful and fruitful in life. For a very long time, we have thought that this particular population was simply lazy and unmotivated but now we are learning that they are actually lacking the skill set of a particular generation to do the things that society has expected of them.

In a society where a child is given a graduation from elementary school, middle school and even high school and not cut from any clubs, organization or sports teams has sent a message that a child will never fail in life. We have not properly prepared our young adults for the real world. If every student gets a 50% for just showing up to class and not turning anything in, how can we expect them to show up to work and if they miss a day not expect to be paid. We can’t because they are not equipped for the perils of life.

Understanding how to get to the root cause of the ambivalence under failure to lunch syndrome and identify the stuck points, and move forward from stuck to success is the goal of fixing failure to launch. One of the ways Dr. Cali Estes works on failure to launch is uncovering the root cause a problem behind not wanting to be successful and move forward in life. Every individual’s root cause of being stuck is different. This could be an issue like drugs and alcohol as a coping mechanism, it could be the lack of job skills in the job market, an educational issue, or it could simply be depression or something like ADD. Uncovering the underlying issues is the key to understanding the failure to launch syndrome and understanding how to fix the root causes so that an individual goes from stuck to success in a very positive productive manner and the family sees a change and not only attitude but actual measurable results to paramount.