Three Ways to Motivate Your Failure To Launch Child

Three Ways to Motivate Your Failure To Launch Child

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It can be extremely frustrating to have an adult child that is suffering from Failure to Launch Syndrome. Getting your adult child passed their “stuck point” in life can feel like you are beating your head against a brick wall. This becomes especially frustrating when we are trying to help our failure to launch adult child find employment. We, as parents, know that gaining employment can start our child off to a successful life. Let’s look at a few ways in which we can help them find employment. We have to be careful not to helicopter parent or snowplow parent and just be there for guidance and support.

1.HELP THEM WITH RESUME-part of being diagnosed as failure to launch is being unorganized in life, so having a strong resume is probably not a common factor in our adult child’s life. Helping them organize their past employment into a productive resume will really help them gain good employment.
2. SET A TIME TO JOB HUNT ONLINE– use this as a function that you and your failure to launch child can do together. A common downfall of failure to launch syndrome is not being able to structure our time productively. Set a common time for you and your adult child to go online together and see what is available.
3. TAKE YOUR ADULT CHILD TO INTERVIEWS– your adult child that is suffering from failure to launch may not have reliable transportation which makes them fall behind other candidates for jobs. We can be there to help our adult children get to and from interviews to give them the best chance of gaining employment.
There are many different ways in which we can help our adult children suffering from failure to launch syndrome get employment without helicopter parenting or snowplow parenting. At The Addictions Coach, we specialize in helping young adults suffering from failure to launch syndrome. Learn more about Failure To Launch Syndrome or contact our elite team today at 1.800.706.0318.  A Few Ways to Motivate Your Failure To Launch Child

Am I addicted to social media?

Am I addicted to social media?

Is social media having a negative impact on my life? Am I spending more time in my “virtual life” than I am my real life? These are all valid questions to ask yourself if you feel that the time you are spending wrapped up in social media is starting to have a negative impact on your life. Social media addiction is real and it is affecting people all over the world and is having a huge effect on people’s social skills. Let’s start by using millennials as an example. Now we are not going to trash this specific generation here but I do want to bring a few things to your attention. Have you noticed that certain millennials have problems expressing themselves or interacting on a normal level? They operate perfectly through Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and even by text, yet they can’t pick up a ringing telephone or answer a common knock at the front door. This is because they have been brought up communicating and interacting through social media instead of in a real-life setting. Another sign that social media is having a negative impact is isolation.
How many of you reading this blog have a teen, pre-teen or a young adult in the home who is, right at this very moment, behind a closed door playing an online video game or interacting on Facebook? I bet the number of you would be eye-opening! How about the person who can’t have a meal without a “food selfie”? Or the person who cant participate in a normal everyday function without documenting this on social media? There is a huge difference between using social media to sell a product or promote an event and dictating your every move through Facebook. There is such a fine line here with social media. It can be such a helpful tool when used in a healthy way but it can be a destructive tool when abused. So are you a social media addict? If you are asking yourself this question then there is a good chance that you are abusing social media in one way or another.
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What are some failure to launch symptoms?

What are some failure to launch symptoms?

With the addictions industry and recovery community realizing that Failure to Launch syndrome is for real, we naturally search for answers on how to get a failure to launch syndrome help. First of all, we can’t fix failure to launch syndrome until we know exactly what the failure to launch symptoms are. So let’s take a few moments to recognize and go over the symptoms of failure to launch. At first, you may begin to notice a loved one suffering from failure to launch begin to isolate themselves from everyone around them. Isolation is a huge symptom of the failure to launch because the person suffering from failure to launch syndrome feels like a failure and tends to not want to interact with others so that no one is exposed to their so-called failure.
Another huge symptom of the failure to launch syndrome is your loved one can’t hold down a job. A lack of pure self-confidence plays a major role in not being able to hold down a job. Failure to Launch syndrome leaves us without the skills and knowledge needed to stay gainfully employed.
Another huge symptom of the failure to launch syndrome is not being able to hold down a relationship with a significant other. Those of us suffering from failure to launch syndrome don’t want others, especially a significant other, to know our shortcomings brought on by failure to launch syndrome. Those people suffering from failure to launch syndrome would prefer to be alone. Not being able to dig ourselves out of our own trouble spots in life is another huge symptom of the failure to launch syndrome.
A large percentage of people suffering from failure to launch is a direct result of helicopter parenting or snowplow parenting. These two styles of parenting cripple children and young adult children by not giving them the self-confidence and skills to get themselves out of their own messes. We need to give our children enough space to make their own crucial decisions in life that sends them on a successful path.
Our next symptom of the failure to launch is that we can expect our loved one suffering from failure to launch to not be able to pay their own bills and pay their own way in life. Because unemployment is so high in those of us suffering from failure to launch, we can expect to see our loved ones afflicted with failure to launch fail miserably when it comes to paying bills. Again, because of the destructive styles of parenting, our loved ones suffering from failure to launch have usually had everything taken care of for them in life, especially financially. And in turn, this produces a catastrophic effect when someone with failure to launch syndrome tries to pay their own way in life. They absolutely can not do it. They expect the parental safety net to “swoop” down at any time to save them.
One of the biggest symptoms of failure to launch syndrome is an addiction. The feeling of worthlessness and failure brought on by failure to launch syndrome is enough to turn young people to drugs and alcohol. The numbing effect that drugs and alcohol temporarily bring to those suffering from failure to launch is very appealing. And over time, those people numbing from the feelings brought on by failure to launch syndrome develop a full-on addiction to whatever drugs they are taking.
So where can one find failure to launch syndrome treatment? Well, Dr. Cali Estes, founder, and creator of The Addictions Coach and The Addictions Academy has not created a new program to help those suffering from failure to launch syndrome. You can find information about this new program at https://fixfailure2launch.com or by calling 1-800-706-0318. There are a lot of moving parts when it comes to diagnosing failure to launch syndrome and fixing failure to launch syndrome so let the leading experts in the addictions industry help you today!

What causes failure to launch?

What causes failure to launch?

Up until last year, failure to launch syndrome was looked at as nothing more than laziness and our young adult children or nothing more than a minor personality and motivational defect in our young adult children. But now that more light has been shed on the lack of motivation in our millennials and the inability in our young adult children to be responsible members of society we now need to look at the causes of failure to launch syndrome in our youth. We cannot fix failure to launch syndrome until we know why our young adult children are suffering from failure to launch syndrome. It has become extremely important to zero in on our parenting methods involved in the upbringing of those of us afflicted with failure to launch syndrome.
There are two major defective parenting methods that are the leading cause of failure to launch syndrome. First, we have helicopter parenting which is when we as parents hover over our children, especially in educational, social and occupational life scenarios to attempt to push the child in a direction that we as parents think is best. This is extremely detrimental and the child’s progression in life when it comes to forming their own healthy personality and confidence. The other detrimental form of parenting is snowplow parenting. This form of parenting is when we as parents remove every possible roadblock or hurdle in life for our children as if we were a snow plow going down a snow filled road, removing any obstacle in our way. This is obviously detrimental to our children because they never develop the skill of overcoming life’s negative obstacles.
Second, a young adult has a lack of purpose in life and has no passion or marketable skills. They want to save the world and make a ton of money but want to start their day at noon and spend it on facebook taking selfies. They have no concept of real hard work and think they can simply be Kim Kardashian and make money on youtube.
Third, the lack of social consequences. Mom and dad bail out their adult child, especially all legal issues and make them simply disappear. There is really no consequence, if the child can’t pay rent, mom and dad cover it. If the child wants a car mom and dad buy it.
Fourth, the school has never cut them so they do not know what it is like to be cut from the team or felt a letdown. They graduate school and literally apply to one job and expect to get it and make six figures out of high school. when they don’t get the job they are devastated. They have no idea what loss is.
I will use my own personal experience here but explaining this. My father and I had an extraordinarily good relationship as I was growing up as a child and playing sports and thriving and sports. When I turned 16, I decided to forgo a college scholarship in baseball to pursue my lifelong dream of becoming a touring rock ‘n’ roll drummer. My father turned his back on me and wanted nothing to do with me because he feared I was throwing my life down the toilet. This breach in our relationship contributed to me “shutting down” and becoming extremely “nonproductive” in life! So as you can see there are many different causes when it comes to the causes of failure to launch syndrome and we have to be very careful in the parenting of our youth as well as our relationships with our parents and children.
If you feel as though you are suffering from failure to launch central or maybe you feel as though your parenting skills have led to your child suffering from failure to launch syndrome then please contact us here at https://fixfailure2launch.com or call 1-800-706-0318. Call us today 24 hours a day seven days a week as Dr. Cali Estes, the founder, and creator of The Addictions Coach and The Addictions Academy is here with her new creation geared to help ALL affected by Failure to Launch Syndrome!

The Five Ways I Helped My Failure To Launch Child

 

The Five Ways I Helped My Failure To Launch Child

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So earlier this week we established what “Failure To Launch” syndrome is. We also established how our parenting styles can contribute to our child’s success or failure, specifically with ‘Failure To Launch”. So now it would only be natural to talk about how we can help our adult children suffering from “Failure To Launch”.
In my case, my lack of parenting greatly contributed to my son’s “Failure to Launch” so I needed to do whatever I could to help pull him out of his rut. Now, what was extremely important was that I did not helicopter parent or snowplow parent my child. I desperately needed to help him but do this in a way where he does the work with me. This way he builds healthy confidence along the way. So here are the top five things I did to help my young adult child suffering from Failure To Launch” syndrome.
1) First off, true to form in a young adult child suffering from “Failure To Launch” syndrome, my young adult child had isolated himself on the other side of the United States and stopped responding to calls, texts or emails. So I needed to get him out of his “isolation cell”, his house, and move him closer to me. This will allow me to start helping him structure a healthy lifestyle. So this is exactly what I did. I moved my son into our RV.
2) Next, I needed to make sure he was working to pay his own way in life. Also true to form in a young adult suffering from “Failure to Launch”, my son had completely stopped working. He had not sent us his bill money in almost a year and something had to be done. Now that he was living near me I could offer him a job with me and a chance to learn a trade that could set him up for a successful future. Being a residential electrician, I was able to put my son to work with me. This is very important because by paying his own way he is quickly gaining confidence in life.
3) Two and three kind of go hand in hand. So next, I was able to teach my son a trade that pays well and has steady work at all times. I am in the process of teaching my son the electrical trade. I truly feel like teaching my son the electrical trade will help set him up for a very successful future.
4) It was very important for me to help my son structure fun activities for us to do together. My son loves to work out in the gym and so do I so #4 was a no-brainer. I would get up 2 hours early to make sure we had time every morning before work to hit the gym. Not only did this activity give us valuable time together, but it is quickly making us both extremely healthy.
5) Last, but not least, I am simply making time for my son and hanging out with him any chance we have to hang out together. After getting my son here, helping put him to work and spending quality time with him made me realize how lonely he must have been while isolating himself. It must have been miserable waking up every day “locked” in your own misery. So making time for my son and spending quality time with him was an easy choice, and I have seen VAST improvements in him since we have been hanging out more.
—Tim
So as you can see, we as parents can make a huge difference in helping pull our young adult children out of their “Failure to Launch” mindset. It takes a lot of work on both parties part but if both parties stay committed and disciplined you will be amazed at the results! Dr. Cali Estes, founder and creator of The Addictions Academy and The Addictions Coach, has now created http://www.fixfailure2launch.com to focus strictly on those suffering from “Failure to Launch” syndrome.  Call  1-800-706-0318 to get information on how to help you or a loved one suffering from “Failure to Launch” syndrome today!