The Five Ways I Helped My Failure To Launch Child
So earlier this week we established what “Failure To Launch” syndrome is. We also established how our parenting styles can contribute to our child’s success or failure, specifically with ‘Failure To Launch”. So now it would only be natural to talk about how we can help our adult children suffering from “Failure To Launch”.
In my case, my lack of parenting greatly contributed to my son’s “Failure to Launch” so I needed to do whatever I could to help pull him out of his rut. Now, what was extremely important was that I did not helicopter parent or snowplow parent my child. I desperately needed to help him but do this in a way where he does the work with me. This way he builds healthy confidence along the way. So here are the top five things I did to help my young adult child suffering from Failure To Launch” syndrome.
1) First off, true to form in a young adult child suffering from “Failure To Launch” syndrome, my young adult child had isolated himself on the other side of the United States and stopped responding to calls, texts or emails. So I needed to get him out of his “isolation cell”, his house, and move him closer to me. This will allow me to start helping him structure a healthy lifestyle. So this is exactly what I did. I moved my son into our RV.
2) Next, I needed to make sure he was working to pay his own way in life. Also true to form in a young adult suffering from “Failure to Launch”, my son had completely stopped working. He had not sent us his bill money in almost a year and something had to be done. Now that he was living near me I could offer him a job with me and a chance to learn a trade that could set him up for a successful future. Being a residential electrician, I was able to put my son to work with me. This is very important because by paying his own way he is quickly gaining confidence in life.
3) Two and three kind of go hand in hand. So next, I was able to teach my son a trade that pays well and has steady work at all times. I am in the process of teaching my son the electrical trade. I truly feel like teaching my son the electrical trade will help set him up for a very successful future.
4) It was very important for me to help my son structure fun activities for us to do together. My son loves to work out in the gym and so do I so #4 was a no-brainer. I would get up 2 hours early to make sure we had time every morning before work to hit the gym. Not only did this activity give us valuable time together, but it is quickly making us both extremely healthy.
5) Last, but not least, I am simply making time for my son and hanging out with him any chance we have to hang out together. After getting my son here, helping put him to work and spending quality time with him made me realize how lonely he must have been while isolating himself. It must have been miserable waking up every day “locked” in your own misery. So making time for my son and spending quality time with him was an easy choice, and I have seen VAST improvements in him since we have been hanging out more.
So as you can see, we as parents can make a huge difference in helping pull our young adult children out of their “Failure to Launch” mindset. It takes a lot of work on both parties part but if both parties stay committed and disciplined you will be amazed at the results! Dr. Cali Estes, founder and creator of The Addictions Academy and The Addictions Coach, has now created http://www.fixfailure2launch.com
to focus strictly on those suffering from “Failure to Launch” syndrome. Call 1-800-706-0318 to get information on how to help you or a loved one suffering from “Failure to Launch” syndrome today!