How do I motivate my adult child?
This is a question that parents are asking themselves more and more these days. And this is a direct result of Failure to Launch Syndrome. More and more young adults can’t seem to get past their “stuck point” in their present life. Why is this? There are a number of reasons why young adults seem to be “stuck” in their personal and professional lives right now, but that’s a different blog for a different day. Today we are going to discuss how we can motivate our adult children.
First in order to “fix” something or motivate a young adult, or a generation so to speak, is to UNDERSTAND them and the problem. It seems that Failure to Launch Syndrome is higher in millennials so with this generation we have to understand the technology that has contributed to certain “shutdowns” in their personality. So the first thing we have to do is to understand where they are coming from and how they see things through their eyes. Remember, most of us older than this generation didn’t have the technology that millennials have had doing everything for us. This technological coddling definitely has had a dulling effect on this generation’s production! We need to understand this before we can fix it.
The next two things I am going to discuss go hand in hand. Secondly, we need to set boundaries with this generation. Making sure that you make your adult child knows exactly what you will do and what you won’t do is extremely important. Your actions are half of the process in fixing this lack of motivation so it is imperative that your adult child knows your boundaries.
So this brings us to my third way to motivate your adult child. and this is accountability. Make sure that your adult child knows that their lack of preparation is not YOUR emergency. Make them accountable for their own actions and preparation. Throw the “ownership” back on them where it belongs. Because in the end, only I am responsible for my success or my failure, right? Not anybody else.
Next, Raise the bar on them little by little. Give them tasks to accomplish and hold them to it. Don’t revert back to old habits and do everything for your adult child because it’s “easier”. And lastly, make a contract with rewards and consequences. Reward your adult child for taking responsibility and accomplishing minor goals. And at the same time make sure you have consequences for your adult child when they don’t follow through. Keep in mind, that we need to work as hard as our unmotivated adult child to fix this issue and get them on their way to a productive life on their own. This is what we really want for them in the long run, right? Also, keep in mind that we here at The Addictions Coach specialize in working with unmotivated adults with Failure to Launch Syndrome. Head over to our company website at www.fixfailure2launch.com or https://theaddictionscoach.com/failure-to-launch/
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