What is Failure to Launch Syndrome?
Failure to launch syndrome is a term that is given to young to middle-age adults that can’t seem to do certain things in life. This group of individuals seems to lack motivation, life skills, job skills, and almost would rather stay at home than be successful and fruitful in life. For a very long time, we have thought that this particular population was simply lazy and unmotivated but now we are learning that they are actually lacking the skill set of a particular generation to do the things that society has expected of them.
In a society where a child is given a graduation from elementary school, middle school and even high school and not cut from any clubs, organization or sports teams has sent a message that a child will never fail in life. We have not properly prepared our young adults for the real world. If every student gets a 50% for just showing up to class and not turning anything in, how can we expect them to show up to work and if they miss a day not expect to be paid. We can’t because they are not equipped for the perils of life.
Understanding how to get to the root cause of the ambivalence under failure to lunch syndrome and identify the stuck points, and move forward from stuck to success is the goal of fixing failure to launch. One of the ways Dr. Cali Estes works on failure to launch is uncovering the root cause a problem behind not wanting to be successful and move forward in life. Every individual’s root cause of being stuck is different. This could be an issue like drugs and alcohol as a coping mechanism, it could be the lack of job skills in the job market, an educational issue, or it could simply be depression or something like ADD. Uncovering the underlying issues is the key to understanding the failure to launch syndrome and understanding how to fix the root causes so that an individual goes from stuck to success in a very positive productive manner and the family sees a change and not only attitude but actual measurable results to paramount.